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>Be socially awkward>Am... 10 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
>Be socially awkward >Am in a position where I get my chops busted at work for being the new guy >Trying to learn how to be...socially normal. >Seeking help from /adv/ Alright guys and gal's: 1. I am the new guy, getting my chops busted is part of the job, so I ask, how do I respond when someone busts my chops? Do I chop them back, or should I just smile and take it because I'm the new guy (Not in a negative manner, chop busting is a right of passage pretty much). 2. How do I deal with mistakes? It's not the most 9-5 job (firefighter) and 99% of the time the mistakes are small and recoverable, but I tend to dwell on mistakes. Is it appropriate after everything settles down to be like "Man, I screwed X up, haha." or should I not even mention it? Should I ask people for critique? 3. I can't really carry a conversation. I don't say anything weird, but I just sort of "agree" and give one word answers, I'm not very good at variety in a convo. These are issues I've dealt with my whole life, I'm tired of being seen as the funny weird guy at work. How do I become respected among my peers? The above is the primary issues I've dealt with through my life, if I could fix those, then I'd be golden.

Another hlpme thing

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This is one for the philosophers, the dreamers, the lovers, and the lost. This is also one for me. For selfish reasons, as well as selfless reasons. Decide for yourself. This has no place, but it's here. Have you ever asked yourself who you are? Why you're you? What you're doing, and why? These questions have been in the back of my head for as long as I can remember. They always loom as the voice of doubt when I make a decision or take an action. Because of some neurological disorders I have, it's very very difficult for me to express my feelings, react to social interaction, function under pressure, and so on. Through my years, I've learned to cope with a lot of these things through brave faces and false smiles based on what I see in the shows I watch, books I read, games I play and so on. It's become instinctual reflex. I can't relieve my stress or share my burdens under my own power, and that adds a lot of pressure to me. Lately, I haven't had the motivation or willpower to do much of anything because of these unanswered questions. I haven't been able to recognize MYSELF, I only see the personae that I've manifested, the masks I wear. As of right now, the pressure is too much, so I'm doing something that would be impossible any other time; Speaking from the heart, not the mind. I'm hopelessly lost. Everywhere I look, I see nothing but gray, no signs of recognition. I've been through all teachable forms of creative expression, hoping to find an outlet, but I can't find a reason to continue any of them. "There's always someone better, so why try?" is the only thought I can find on the subject. My health has been on a sharp decline for a long time now, and I can't leave my room even if I wanted to. Family is no help, I'm too distasteful for them. "Friends" are no help, they don't know me. I don't expect help from you, but it's all I have left. I need to find myself, and all I'm managing to do is find more unanswerable questions. tl;dr melodrama pic related
no motivation? I can't... 29 posts and 4 image replies omitted. Click to view.
no motivation? I can't even be bothered to play games anymore. or anything for that matter. How do I get motivated again?
How do you deal with being a... 27 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
How do you deal with being a Computer Science major who is this dumbest person in all your classes? I grew up in a pretty technological barren family, lived in the country with dial up for my entire life. I have no experience beyond basic computer use and have no programming experience. I feel depressed in all my classes and feel like everyone is so far ahead of me. I'm like one of the last people out of the lab portion of my class and rarely finish the entire assignments given in it while people get through the challenge. Any advice, I feel like a fucking idiot

What is eating disorder (do I have an actual problem)

What is eating disorder (do I... 9 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
So what's wrong with me if every time I look at myself in the mirror I always think I'm fat and I'm self conscious about my weight? I know I'm not overweight, I weighed myself yesterday and I was 153 and I'm about 6 foot 2. I don't ever starve myself and I don't 'purge' but I usually don't enjoy eating and usually think "this is just going to make me fat." Is it normal to feel this self conscious? Male, if you're wondering. 18.
My friend on IRC knows how to... 0 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
My friend on IRC knows how to get mass amounts of prescription pills. I keep asking him how he does it. He believes i am an FBI agent. How do I convince him I'm not?
How do I tell my gf I'm... 37 posts and 1 image replies omitted. Click to view.
How do I tell my gf I'm not into anal without making her feel insecure or hurting her feelings? She is a really sensitive person and will probably take it personally.
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Getting depressed /adv/. >Live on Island >Oil&Gas, trades, etc are being promoted through the roof in the school system >I don't want to go into oil and gas and/or trades >It's literally being SHOVED down our fucking throats >I ask about going into academia >nobody helps me >I'm starting to realize how isolated I really am if I don't do what they want me to do, not what I want to do. What do I do /adv/. Everyone around me is polluted with the mindset that academia is worthless, and you'll only make it by doing trades and such. I'm starting to realize that doing what you want to do is a myth.
I hate being alone yet I hate... 4 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
I hate being alone yet I hate being with people. Wat do?
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I need some opinions/advice: I am trying to learn to speak German, although I'm not sure what the best way to go about doing this. I only speak English fluently and a little Spanish, but learning German is something I've always wanted to do. I was thinking about using the software Rosetta Stone. I have heard good things about it but wanted to get some opinions regarding the software from those who have used it. If Rosetta Stone isn't that great, what other methods (besides moving to Germany) would you suggest? Thanks.

Turning down job offer ruin later chances?

Turning down job offer ruin... 2 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
Long story short I have a job I am looking at, at the time when I looked at it I was excited, and even ready to go head long into it. But currently (it has taken about 4 months for them to get back to me) things are just not leaning that way, and the compound of things built up are swaying me to say no. the only thing I worry about is... could this ruin my chances later on if another opportunity arises? or will it be a black mark? Anyone with experience on this? Part of me is thinking that the fear I am feeling is a silly anxiety..

Relationship advice.

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First off this is one of the only times I've ever posted anything on 4chan in the last 5 years of browsing. So please go easy on me XD I've been talking to this girl for about 6+ years and we liked each other all throughout high school but never really acted on it. We both told each other we liked each other as more then friends but never actually said, "hey lets go out." Years pass until now and we've recently been going on actual dates and we are boyfriend/girlfriend. The problem lies with me.. I am not really good with making moves or doing stuff of that nature without a push. And I'm talking I haven't even held her hand yet. I know it sounds lame as fuck and i'm trying to make the effort and she said she understands since we both really haven't dated anyone before.. Also she's really bad at texting people back so when I text her and don't get a reponse for like 3 hours I slip into a depressed state. Anyways 4chan, my question is, what's wrong with me and how do i fix it?
I want a gf, I'm a solid... 18 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
I want a gf, I'm a solid 7+, healthy thin, confident friendly guy. but I'm pretty insecure when it comes to befriending women in a more personal level. I can befriend girls casually though. Any suggestions?
Would you get with a 7.5/10... 27 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
Would you get with a 7.5/10 chick who's crushing on you even if she showed some signs of being crazy?

Well. Here goes.

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Hey /adv/ I am a 17 year old male, very unsure of my self, self-conscious, I guess. In many ways. My weight, I'm about 275 lbs, 5 ft 11 inches. My looks, I just don't feel attractive. And my penis. It's about 4 1/2 to 5 inches. I'm just very insecure about myself. I have a girlfriend, a very serious one, at that. We've never had sex, and I'm worried she won't like something about me. Are these just stupid, irrelevant reasons? Should I just suck it up and move on?

ITT: Same thing as every other thread

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>be almost 21 >be in britland and a student >compulsive gamer How do I care more? I find myself frequently throwing myself into my fantasy world since it's fun and rewarding and neglecting my other responsibilities until I absolutely have to deal with them. It just doesn't seem important to me and I rely on video games for a sense of importance and a source of fun. >tried to drop video games for a week >lasted 3 days I guess the reason I came here is that it's a place I might find people who are or who have been through a similar conundrum. I used to do nothing but play video games and I've slowly come out of my shell but I just want to have a healthy relationship with video games and be able to live a healthy lifestyle. What can I do that replaces that feel of being in control and progressing?
I used to torture animals when... 19 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
I used to torture animals when I was a kid and it wasn't because I was tortured myself, got pleasure from doing it or any of that cliche shit. It felt normal to me, like turning a page on a book or stretching. Did any of you do that when you were kids? I want to learn more about myself because I've been feeling this same neutral socially abnormal way for a long time. I just want to know what's wrong with my brain.
>be me, senior year of high... 37 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
>be me, senior year of high school >there's this freshman girl who looks really young >she's all shy and innocent >mfw >hate myself on the inside, don't tell anyone >fast forward a few years >be 21 >run into girl, she's 18 now >she looks exactly. the. same >still attracted to her >my bros find out, get dirty looks from all of them, get called a pedo/creep Wat do, /adv/? Is it worth the social stigma?
Hey /adv/ need your help.Going... 0 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
Hey /adv/ need your help. Going to see the gf on friday, and have an issue. I cum really quickly, like even if we kiss a lot, I can cum from that. Should I jerk it like no other so I last longer in bed? Or is that a myth? Any help would be really appreciated.
hold me /adv/I finally got my... 3 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
hold me /adv/ I finally got my first gf after 23 years, and we lasted 4 months and she broke up with me today. A day after our 4 month. When we got together in October, I knew she was gonna study abroad and she said she still wanted to date and stay together while she was abroad. I wanted that too so I made it official. Now two months into her study abroad, she said she doesn't feel the same about me anymore, she doesn't think about me as much, and she just wants to be friends. I was like the perfect boyfriend, I think I was just too nice and she got bored. Wat do? Is there any hope?
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