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Hey /adv/ how retarded am i?So... 13 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
Hey /adv/ how retarded am i? So I have a girlfriend, things go well. But she gets emotional over the dumbest things. And when telling me, I can't help buy get ticked off. She hangs out with a bunch of people >Boohoo, I don't have any friends anon, I'm lonely. Meanwhile I have maybe 1 or 2 "friends" that don't really ever do anything with me. >my family is being mean to me anon and say they hate me well okay you family is shitty, get over it. Mine didn't get a go without fighting and saying much worse than yours did to you. Its a bunch of small things like this. I feel retarded for getting frustrated over this. And she had a hard life growing up. But she gets so emotional over things when I've had it worse and then she acts pissed because I'm not properly helping her.
how do i stop loving my gf?i... 4 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
how do i stop loving my gf? i want to split up with her but i can't find the power in me because i still love her suggestions?
So a girl messaged me on OKC.... 4 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
So a girl messaged me on OKC. We started talking and she seemed pretty nice, attractive, etc. We started talking for a few days and I found out she lives in my area and we went out for coffee. But something caught my attention on her profile. > "I like a man with money" Should this be taken as a big red flag?
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I am so mad. A few days ago I posted here about my SO having trouble with a new girl at his work. Basic rundown: >girl thinks she's hot shit. (I mean, she is pretty, don't get me wrong, but dat terrible personality) >is the type that believes everyone is hitting on her >systematically goes through each of the guys, telling the boss "they make her uncomfortable" >starts spreading sexual rumors about everyone, including one involving me...saying my husband and I have an "open relationship" (Not true, we've been together for 10 years, done some freaky shit, but never had an open relationship) So anyway, she became convinced that every guy that's remotely nice to her is hitting on her. But instead of being reasonable, she takes offense. It escalated when she got the idea that my SO (Who I will call Aaron) was trying to get her into a threesome with he and I (??? I laughed so hard at this) and was trying to get her bf to fight him. So a continuation to this is what happened tonight. He went to talk to her and try to explain any misunderstandings that might have occurred. It went bad. Her response? She slapped him and spit in his face. Literally. Spit in his face. Unfortunately there were no witnesses to the slap & spit, but several coworkers came in afterwards. From what they said, Aaron remained calm throughout, while she phoned her bf and screamed at him to come kick Aarons ass. (Hilariously, I'm told that people could hear him on the other end saying; "You did WHAT? No, APOLOGIZE.") Anyway, long story short, she quit on the spot and stormed out, but not before vowing to come see me (At my workplace) and try to break us up. I don't want to fight this girl, but spitting in someone's face is so fucking disrespectful I can't even contain my anger. So I guess I'm asking...what do I do when she comes to see me? Because my instinct is to fucking murder her and I know that's not a good, adult way to deal with this.
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Disgruntled cashier who still is a couple months out from a better job in civil service or county work here: How do I put up with this crap? I need this job until I get into something that pays an even halfway liveable wage without food stamps, but I feel like I'm on crazy pills. I did not go to college to be treated like a subhuman...

dealing with rage

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So been with a girl for year and a half. I loved her more than life itself. Then she cheated on me. I was devastated like neveer before. At first I dumped her, and cut all contact. But than she started txting me, saying she is sorry, she didnt want for that to happen (eaven thoy she is still fucking the same guy), and she wants me back, first as a friend, and when she gains my trust, we can get back. At that point I lost it. Told her all kinds of insults, used all knowlage of her problems (I told her that I hope that she becomes suicidal again, and when she kills herself, I would piss on her grawe), and told her if she ever contacts me again, I will tell anyone all of her secrets. She stoped, but my pt-roblrm is all the hate and rage that I have for her. I moved with my life, but there is small part of me, that wants revenge, to humiliate her. I know she is pissed of now, because I moved on, have new gf and all, but I feel it is not enough, i stillwant ger to suffer more
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I recently bought a new laptop that was advertised as having great sound quality, but for some reason they decided put the speakers on the underside. This gives the sound a constant echo and I figure the only way to fix it is to buy a pair of headphones. I already own an AKG-K701 and I love them to death. They're comfortable as hell and sound great. The downside is they're not portable and I need something that I can lug with me and my laptop. Is there anything you guys can recommend? Most headphones that don't have deep ear pads will hurt my ears after a while, and I don't know the first thing about the in ear ones.
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Posted here earlier about killing myself and how I wasn't sure how I would make it through tonight. I have a really frail heart from living too hard in college/highscool with lots of caffeine and junk food. I'm chugging 10 cans of energy drinks within the next 2 hours, while watching Harry Potter for the first time. I'm 3 cans in and I feel sick. Does anyone care about status reports and if I am dying or should I just enjoy the movie and waking up at 4am to throw up?
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How can I stop being so clingy? I really love this cute korean guy that I go to university with, but he'll randomly be cold to me for no real reason. We'll be really close for a week of two, and then he'll barely talk to me, block me on skype and not answer my texts for almost a month. I really want to be with him all the time, and not being able to contact him at all makes me kind of sad. I think the main reason is that I'm clingy, which is why I'm making this thread, I'm always holding him/giving him little pecks when we're together and on the occasions that he's not "mad" at me he usually returns my affection and lets me cuddle up to him more. We've been "friends" since the start of high school, so we know each-other pretty well. The only thing I know that's changed is that he's starting to focus more on himself is brushing his friend group aside to try and start a relationship.
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I am in love with a slut. She is a good person except when she's a bitch, and can be very particular about stuff sometimes in a way that exhausts me, but at the same time being around her gives me a special kind of strength. I feel like I can put up with the little bullshit things she wants me to do because they're sensible enough and are appropriate for being considerate of those around me, and her style and energy is inspiring, but she has been with more partners than me. She also had an ex who was a lot bigger than me and I feel like less of a man knowing that. The sex is more than sex and food is more than food when I'm with her. Being around her gives my life meaning, but some retarded chad wore her out before we found our love. Should I dump her or try to make it work, knowing she's heavily used goods?
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Its kinda a strange story, but ultimately, my family was killed by a group of religious nuts. I spent my childhood learning how to defend myself and hide. I moved around a lot and never really got attached to any of my foster famlies. They moved me around mostly to keep me protected over the years while police tried to track down these nutjobs. I tried making friends, but some families where threatened and stalked by the people trying to find me. And finally one day the cops caught everyone involved and locked them up. I even met some of them and they didnt seem to have any regret about it. Thats was years ago. Ive been laying low for a long time despite there being no danger. Ive had no problems since. Its just habit. But now Im having friends, and Im starting to realize I dont know how to behave or act. Im always distant and make sure they know very little about me. I once freaked out simply because they knew how to spell entire name. Im far away now and its been forever to the point I think its safe to open up to people, but I just dont know how and I think Im upsetting people by doing this. Im already secretive so I dont tell anyone my excuse. I dont know how to be normal.
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so ill just start off by saying i'm gay now that that's out of the way here comes the story >meet a quiet, sweet guy that looks like a girl >start really liking him thinking he was a girl >didnt know i was gay >find out she is a he, still have feelings >he hits a rocky patch with his longterm boy friend >they break up >we start dating, and spend most days hanging out at either's place of residences >everything fucking cool >tells me he still has feelings for his ex boyfriend > well that sucks, but he was a really nice guy, and i just want him to be happy >we break up >fast forward to now >we are starting to talk again, and the little things that were road blocks for me aren't around anymore (i sought help for a mental trauma thing where i start punching in my sleep) (i am starting to make good money) (i take pills for cat allergies) >we are hanging out this weekend at my place to catch up >don't know if i should pull a move what do you think? a) take a shot, and risk loosing him b) stay friends, and live in regret of what could have been pic unrelated

Lock picking advice/chastity escape

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Hi this is really embarrassing, but i need help picking a lock without destroying the lock OR if you somehow also know what this device is, how can i get out of it, but be able to put it back on how it was. long story short, my gf really got mad at my porn collection and masturbation habit. she said, and well it is sometimes true, that i fap too much and dont save enough of myself for her. she bought me this sex toy(anti sex toy lol) that is a tube that encases my penis, locks, and prevents me from masturbating, removing it, and even getting erections ! it's called a cb6000 i really need to masturbate, it helps me sleep during the week when i dont see her as much, but she is really enjoying having me in this device and i want her to keep getting that pleasure. i pretty much need to get out of this thing so i can take matters into my own hands when i need to,and be able to get it back on and appear that i never removed it. any advice? opinions?
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I want to ask this girl at work out for drinks(tomorrow). I don't really converse with her much but she's pretty attractive and nice, also she got me a mountain dew last week and I got her a coke a few days after. She also offered me food during lunch. So she's at least friendly . Considering her position is higher than mine, and I am a betafag, how should I run this? Do you I just flat out ask "hey would you want to go for drinks Friday night" or not do it yet? Or at all?
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>girlfriend tells me via facebook she wants to break up, that she's been attracted to others and thinks it's unfair to me >i get her to stay and talk after she says she's logging off >calls me a few minutes later, telling me she feels confused, smothered and doesn't know else to deal with this >tells me i'll be fine like i was before she came along, i tell her that i won't just forget about her or pretend i never met her (as she feared) >she tells me that i have to get over it even if it's hard, gets frustrated and hangs up I don't understand. Why even call me? Salt on the wound? Should I have said something more? I'm so stumped here.
>3 years ago>e-date girl... 25 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
>3 years ago >e-date girl online >"love" her (not really sure "what love is") >she breaks up with me, telling me she only went out for me because she feel bad that I felt that way about her >still talk to her >still really into her >fast forward to now >still talking to her >she starts doing lots of stupid shit and is depressed >tells me she slept with some dude for alcohol (she's not old enough to drink) >scold her and tell her that was fucking retarded >eventually can't stand trying to give her good advice in a way that's not exactly nice and just admit I really like her How do I break the cycle? Basically I feel really dependent on her and it's getting in the way of me being able to look for other relationships. I feel "dependent on her" to the point in which: a.) I can't be real with her; I have to be nice because I "can't stand seeing her sad" and b.) I pre-sabotage relationships before I get into them by saying to myself that it'll all work out with me and her in the end and I shouldn't bother with someone else.
hey guyswhat would you do if... 9 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
hey guys what would you do if your SO attacked you physically?
So I'm starting a new job... 11 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
So I'm starting a new job tomorrow, which means I have to call my current boss and quit my job tonight. Make me wish I'd never not asked you guys for advice.
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How do I stop reducing women down to their genitals and assuming everything's going to shit so I rather do a hit and run? I was severely bullied in my past and my father was only there as a wallet and I couldn't really form a relationship with him, I heard a healthy parental relationship would have prevented that. I became aware of it after many, many years of reducing them to their genitals after so many failed attempts at forming a meaningful relationship. Do I visit the plumber? If yes, I have an appointment soon. If you ask why I am asking daddy/mommy issues central, aka 4chan, maybe you might have undergone some kind of therapy to suppress it or even make it stop. Tell me /adv/, how can I see women as people and not the way I assume I am seen (wallet with balls)?

Me

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I'll keep as short as possible. Be me. Have low self esteem, suffer from depression. Be in ldr with girl for 8 months. End because feelings of depression are overwhelming near end of high school, want to spare her grief. Try to move on, to forget about her. Fast forward 10 months. Haven't contacted her, still miss her. Feeling alone again, feeling out of place at university, desperately want someone to talk to. Nearly drop out of uni, drop half of classes, regress for two months and barely go outside. Can't handle how isolated I feel even though I know I'm the one causing it. I just want a hug. Really, I'm only 18, I know life is supposed to have its trials I know it doesn't always make sense. I've tried so hard but I seem to be back at square one. I feel so alone
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