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Hello /adv/ I have kind of a simple question How do I small talk?

I want to stop hating myself.

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Everything I do, everything I get into, every activity I make that has any real impact, I subconsciously pick the most self-defacing shaming way to interpret things. Someone gives me advice it feels like an attack, but I just bow my head and accept it because I probably deserved it, and when I don't act on it, it's proven right. I go out to exercise, but instead of any good vibes, I just have in my head a voice going 'why are you doing this? you think this will make you healthy? You think you're going to be fit? You won't be. Just give up. Give up now! WAIT, YOU GAVE UP?!?! YOU PIECE OF SHIT!!! YOU CAN'T DO ANYTHING RIGHT!!!' I work to get a job, I feel like I'm going to be rejected, I avoid people because I'm sure they're still upset over that thing I did five years ago. I don't try to date because who'd want someone as FAT and SHORT as me? I even think about suicide, and get mad at myself for not being ballsy enough to go through with it. I think about it for a second, it feels wrong and unhealthy and destructive, but I get about here, and I want to delete it all and not waste everyone's time feeling sorry for myself. I'm forcing myself to post this after the third time of typing it and it hurts to even ask for help. Like I'm just going to get hounded for being a little pussy bitch. I don't know what's wrong with me, or how to fix it. I just want to be able to look at myself in the mirror, and not see the worst bits of myself everytime. I want to stop living in a vat of emotional tar, because it's not motivating, it's not helpful. It just makes me want to stop being a person somehow. Like just fade into the aether.
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I'm asking a girl out soon, and I have almost no doubt she'll say yes. But before I do it, I need date ideas. Normally my go-to is my regular bar, where the atmosphere is decent, and I'm kind of on my home court. Cocktails are good for loosening the mood and conversation, too. But, it's closing tomorrow, and in this girl's case, I actually met her on OkCupid, so I've been talking to her for a bit and don't necessarily have the need for a small-talk date. Do I just find a new bar, try a more romantic and unique gesture, or do the more traditional "dinner and a movie" thing? I live in Las Vegas if that means anything to anyone.
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Is it okay to just straight-up ask someone if you're still friends?
I'm so close to just... 10 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
I'm so close to just offing myself at this point. I feel so stuck. I'm 21, depressed as fuck, living with emotionally abusive family, and all of my friends have moved away and started their lives already. I'm extremely isolated and I think I might be getting fired soon for under-production, which would ruin my chances of ever getting out of this house. My capacity for self-sabotage is endless and I don't know how to stop. I want to turn this around so badly but have no motivation to do so. I can't get professional help, I'd have Hell to pay from my folks who don't believe in psychiatry or prescription depression/anxiety meds. What do I do /adv/?
>tfw 700 word critique due... 60 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
>tfw 700 word critique due on a public speech I have to see live in person due tomorrow and I haven't seen a speech yet...
so anons, I am dating a girl... 6 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
so anons, I am dating a girl that has never given oral before, I don't know why, she just said it wasn't her thing etc, I don't bother her about it and leave it at that, sex with her is still very satisfying. but now after some time of dating she has turned a new leaf and wants to try it.. now here is my dilemma, when I previously (from the exes) gotten a bj I just told them do more of that/ do less of this but with her I'm at a loss for words what to say to her to get her started.. so help me become a good 'coach' so I can finally let loose a torrent of cum in her mouth right now its still very early in the stages, and she is clearly trying but still not that comfortable with a dick in her mouth, her effort is very much appreciated and welcome.
Hey /b/. So, my son just... 4 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
Hey /b/. So, my son just turned 8 months old, and his mum is fucking up his understanding of life with her stupid ideas of how to raise a child, based entirely on how her mum raised her (her two sisters and her mum are all insecure, no self esteem, stuck in a 16 year old mindset when there both 30 and her mums 53, attention seeking drama whores with constant failed relationships, total pathological inability to learn from mistakes etc) and I told her in no uncertain terms that he WILL not be raised like that. How can I balance the scales? Like, how, if they have all this fucked up baggage, how can I balance it so my positive influence in him outweighs there negative, loser, yolo self destructive bullshit? I was thinking of playing them all a shit ton of tony Robbins stuff to fix them so it wont happen but ... is there anything else I can do? I really am lost for a solution at the moment. Pic related, it's my little dude :)
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I am really struggling right now, /adv/, and I need some sincere responses and perspectives. I am (soon to be) twenty one years-old and my girlfriend is twenty eight years-old. We have been together for five months. She has OCD/Depression and is doing absolutely fantastic on both fronts from my assessment; she helps me with my depression. I think she gorgeous; she is curvy, she is womanly, and that is just what I want physically in a girlfriend. Intellectually, she is very intelligent with multiple degrees and pursuing her MA whilst working full-time. She is kind, she is caring, and she is everything I wanted. The other night I was around her place after a week apart -- we both had exams and papers to write, so we did not get to see one another. We celebrated with some beers and getting some pizza and beers, chilling out watching some TV. We get a bit boozy, overindulge, and head to bed. We snuggle and cuddle, and then she gets up and goes to the bathroom. I hear the tap run, and then this distinctive gushing into the toilet. Odd. "Babe, did you throw up?" I inquired. "Yeah, I felt too full. I feel better now." "Oh, okay. Do you throw up after eating too much often?" (I was not even sure why I asked this, I just did because it seemed out of place to me. Always been the guy to have some food and feel a bit full now and then, but persevere with the pangs of my over-indulgence, so, I presumed everyone did.) "One every three months." (I got suspicious by this reply was uttered). "Are you telling me the truth?" "No, I am sorry. Three or more times a week. I have bulimia." 1/???
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So I'm trying to get a date with one of my many managers who is a woman 1 yr older than me. I asked her to dinner and she said yes at first until she remembered she was kinda my boss and said she didn't think we were allowed to, then suggested going to lunch together when we both have a lunch break together. I said sure but then I realized I only get 5 hr shifts with no lunch breaks. I read the company policy and coworkers are technically allowed to date as long as it doesn't affect work which it wouldn't all i do is run the register and straighten up the store. She was really happy after I asked her and has been friendly since then showing signs of attraction. How can I broach the subject of a date without making things weird?
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So I've masturbated about four to six times a day for about a week. I ran out of lotion two days ago and I decided I'd use this aloe lotion that I got from a hotel when I was on a road trip a few months ago. Now the head of my penis is all rough and callousy. It hurts a lot. What do? I've stopped masturbating but I'd prefer that my dick doesn't have a permanent callous. I'm hard right now. I'm hard basically all the time. I need help.
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Should I get my pilot's license, /adv/? Any pilots in the house tonight? Pros, cons, dos, dont's? Probably of making enough scratch to get by as a small time pilot?
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Yo /adv/, again with the girl problems. I'll try to keep this easy. > 3rd year college student, end of finals whatnot > Beginning of the year, girl transfers into uni > claims to transfer from school to school since 18 > She has no friends, but me and her are on the same wavelength > She's 'pure' but not innocent (She makes fuck loada innuendos but deffo not assertive) although she claims to have 'Abandonment' and 'trust' issues > Hang around all year; become closer > One day, after finals, watch a movie, shit was too long, drifted off asleep and hugged her as I slept (A habit I have) > Next morning, I wake up, she's awake and my arms are still around her > oh shit. Acted as if nothing happened and played it off casually > left her room the next morning and the two of us never interacted again Now~ present day; it's been more than a month and I have disappeared off the face of university and she views my stuff via social media; like Snapchat stories, etc... but never contacts. Whilst im too busy in work to have a 2hr convo and feel 'awkward/guilty'? for what I did? But even as far as texting me and never replying back in couple of occasions. So, /adv/, I'll be honest. I am super fucking dense and I had no idea what I have done. In reality, I dont care and can move along, but what happened here and what should I do if I want to salvage or whatnot?
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Do guys actually enjoy relationships with women, talking to them, being friends with them etc? Or is it really just something they put up with to get pussy and a free maid? Any time I listen to men talk about their girlfriends or wive behind their back it seems like they either find them stupid and harmless or downright despise them. If men could, would they rather choose to "date" a realistic looking sex robot than a person?

Anhedonia and Apathy

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I feel emotionally dead. Nothing makes me upset or excited. Not even drugs or alcohol change that. What can I do to change this?
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would there be less traffic on the turnpike at 10PM, or afternoon tomorrow? So basically is there less traffic at night or afternoon?
Met this girl in a club, and... 5 posts and 0 image replies omitted. Click to view.
Met this girl in a club, and we danced the entire night. It was me and my female friend, and she would join us, almost as if to draw me away from her. Anyways, she had to bounce cause her friend was leaving, so I got her number. Texted her that night, but nothing. Next day, nothing. Waited 2 weeks, cause I stopped caring. Added her on Facebook, and she accepted it instantly. Now what? Honestly just want to not give a fuck, and be like "About time. Guess you don't use your phone?".
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>Be white kid in college >Dating a mexican girl that moved to the states with her family when she was 6 She is great and all, and we have been dating for 6 months now. But her family, specifically her brothers, fucking scare me. Well, really just the one. The okay brother is a thief, don't trust him worth shit, but he certainly doesn't scare me. The other brother is violent as fuck, and has been to jail for assault, and robbery with a firearm. She loves her brothers and refuses to distance from them, but her brothers are also intentionally trying to pry me away from her as well and trying to scare me off. The fuck do I do? I really like her, and I doubt they will do anything other than just trying to scare me, as long as I'm with her. But fuck its annoying. Meanwhile her parents don't even care. I don't actually know why her brothers even dislike me so much. I think they would rather her date some other mexicant lowlife that isn't going anywhere in life.
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Any /adv/ice for a 18 yo?
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Hello /adv/ this thread is about being a NEET wanting a career in any field, but not knowing what I want to do. Here are some facts..I would love if you could help me today. >24 years old >social anxiety but working on it >like physical activities and playing guitar/bass for hobbies >no gf >live at home with dad, i pay him rent but do a lot of work around the house in return >in 3 months I can go to university for conservation or music, both of which i feel like would be a waste of time career wise, but would help with my anxiety What the hell should I do? I just want to move out and have my own life, and deep down I know I can't really afford to go back to University. Should I just get a shit job and see what happens? or should I go to Uni and try to make an actual career? Please advise.
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