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Anonymous 06/23/14(Mon)22:52 UTC+1 No.14409918 Report

I have a problem where I attract extremely co dependent people into my life. Its not because I'm co-dependent myself... I think maybe because its that I'm the only person who will be nice to these "damaged good" type people? I usually meet people with severe mental disabilities. I have generalized anxiety disorder myself and mild aspergers... however I don't find myself drowning in self pity but rather having to save everyone else from their selves... its starting to become a huge drain on me though... how do I stop attracting co dependent people into my life? I'm often too scared that if I reject them they will hurt their selves.
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Anonymous 06/23/14(Mon)22:56 UTC+1 No.14409929 Report

Examples are that some people in my life are addicted to escapist substances like alcohol and pills, pull fake suicide stunts just to feel "rescued", talk for hours about how much they pity their selves and generally just lean way too fucking hard on me. When people do this I always tell them something along the lines of "you need to get stronger" and they promise they will but it never changes and eventually I just push them away completely. I don't lean on anyone myself, because I think its weak to do that.

I'd also like to know how I can attract strong people into my life so I'm not constantly taking care of someone.
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