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Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)21:28 UTC+1 No.14526830 Report

I realized some time ago that I dated (or had some kind of sexual relationship) with all guys that have ever asked me out- even if only for a date.

There were only 4 of them and actually strongly regret only one.

But I don't know why I am like this, most women seem to spend lots of time picking perfect one. I am not really any less attractive than other girls, still- those 4 times are all that ever happened to me

It also makes me doubt about dating my current (of only few weeks guy)- although he was my friend for almost I year and we get aong great, I still feel it is wrong to act this way.

Why I am like this?
Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)21:39 UTC+1 No.14526870 Report

With the exclusion of people I know just online I'm the same. There is nothing wrong with it, I just like to get to know a guy before I reject them. Always seemed a bit unfair to not even give them a chance.
Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)21:42 UTC+1 No.14526875 Report

You should be thankful people even ask you out.

Think of it from a man's perspective. Women don't just come up to us and ask us out. We are expected to be the ones to stick our necks out and face rejection.

So you made some poor decisions in mates, it happens. At least you won't be alone for the rest of your life.
Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)21:42 UTC+1 No.14526877 Report

if only 4 guys have asked you out, then you are not as attractive as you think you are.
Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)21:43 UTC+1 No.14526885 Report

>You should be thankful people even ask you out.

dis is some serious beta mentality
Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)21:44 UTC+1 No.14526886 Report

This guy is probably right too, btw.

Attractive women are constantly swarmed by men. If I were a woman and only got asked out 4 times I would probably feel that people don't find me attractive. Or maybe you're just such an insufferable cunt that only 4 men have wanted to hang around you long enough to date.
Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)21:46 UTC+1 No.14526892 Report


It's not beta at all, it is reality.

If I want to find a girl, _I_ have to go out of my way to ask them. _I_ have to be the one to give _them_ all the attention _they_ craze.

it's all about them and frankly, that is why I have chosen not to play the game. I'm out of the race. If some woman wants to get to know me, SHE can approach me. I'm not doing it.
Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)21:46 UTC+1 No.14526895 Report

Uh is that a lot or a little? What are you getting at?
Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)21:47 UTC+1 No.14526901 Report

Fun fact, it matters just as much if not more where you are. I usually get very little attention, but you if I find myself in a setting geared towards hooking up, it skyrockets.
Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)21:53 UTC+1 No.14526923 Report

Is there possibility of any other reason?
I know how I look and find myself a bit above average and thats the opinion from many people.
I obviously don't count cat-calling or any similar behaviour as asking out too.
I don't have issues with self-esteem and guys I did date are actually very picky both regarding looks and personality.

I know, I am not saying that I should get beta oorbiters and all. It is more about not going through whole picking phase.
Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)22:16 UTC+1 No.14527009 Report

very little considering OP is a woman
Anonymous 07/22/14(Tue)22:46 UTC+1 No.14527110 Report

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