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Military love Lonelyandlost 05/13/14(Tue)23:30 UTC+1 No.14259847 Report

Hi everyone! Here's my predicament:

I am in the USAF. (United states Air Force.) I have been with the same guy for a while now. I was with him before I joined the military and he stuck with me through basic training and technical school. He's in the military too. And no, I didn't join because of him. I was already in the process of joining when I met him.

So fast forward a year and I find out I'm going to South Korea, and then Germany right after. He is stationed in the states. We have been talking about getting married before I found out but nothing definite.

I found out that in order for him to go to Germany with me in July 2015, that we'd have to be married. I basically proposed to him because I love him and I think getting out of the US would be great for the both of us. He said that he didn't know and that he needs to "think about it."

That was months ago and I'm going to leave for Korea next month. Should I continue to be patient and hope he comes around in the nick of time? Or should I just move on and continue my adventures on my own?

P.S. pic unrelated.
Anonymous 05/13/14(Tue)23:47 UTC+1 No.14259898 Report

Maybe did u propose @#thebadtime.?
Lonelyandlost 05/13/14(Tue)23:48 UTC+1 No.14259903 Report

No not really. I mean it's not like it was an untouched topic. When we talked about it before, he seemed into it. Then when I actually asked him, he backed off a lot.
Anonymous 05/13/14(Tue)23:56 UTC+1 No.14259926 Report

He probably shared a genuine interest in sharing marriage in the future. But was turned off by the time of your urgency, and obvious devotion to (not necessarily the idea itself) faith in making that happen easily between the military needs you both face.
Lonelyandlost 05/14/14(Wed)00:04 UTC+1 No.14259957 Report

You're probably right.
Anonymous 05/14/14(Wed)01:20 UTC+1 No.14260234 Report

Move on. He's trying to get something "better", keeping you on hold just in case he doesn't.

Additionally: Love or no loveā€”if you were the one who HAD to propose, it's not going to work.

Additional Addition: You posted mainly to confirm what everyone, including your smart self, already knew.

Take this as a message from destiny.

You'll meet someone better in Korea.
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