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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)18:51 UTC+1 No.14530900 Report

My girlfriend of 3 years has been thinking of getting a vibrator, because we don't see each other too often and she can no longer orgasm using just her hands.

I really am against her getting a toy because I've heard it can make actual sex less pleasurable.

I also don't want to have another dick, even if it is fake. Am I being unreasonable?
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)18:53 UTC+1 No.14530905 Report

>>14530900
let your gf make her own damn decisions
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)18:54 UTC+1 No.14530909 Report

>>14530900
Get one of those mould your own dick things and give it to her.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)18:54 UTC+1 No.14530910 Report

Yes, you are being unreasonable.
Also, using a dildo does not make actual sex less pleasurable. A rubber, lifeless replica can not compare to the real thing.

You have to be pretty insecure to get jelly over a fake donger m8.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)18:58 UTC+1 No.14530935 Report

yup. get over it.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)19:02 UTC+1 No.14530949 Report

>>14530900
if you dont allow her to get a vibrator, you need to stop jerking your fucking cock forever.
fucking retard
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)19:04 UTC+1 No.14530960 Report

Fuck all of you!!
She can't get a damn toy
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)19:09 UTC+1 No.14530970 Report

You are definitely being unreasonable.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)19:13 UTC+1 No.14530991 Report

>>14530900
Get her one less Girth and length as your penis.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)19:15 UTC+1 No.14530993 Report

There's a decent chance she'd use it on her clit and never even actually insert it, you know.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)19:16 UTC+1 No.14530997 Report

>>14530960
Your insecurities are showing.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)19:18 UTC+1 No.14531007 Report

>>14530900
I've owned vibrators for awhile, got my first at 16, I'm 29 now, and never has one made sex less pleasurable. I barely use the one I have now, but it's nice every so often. Basically what this guy said. >>14530910
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)19:57 UTC+1 No.14531165 Report

>>14530900
>I really am against her getting a toy
Then I hope you're a cuckfag since she's going to be going to the neighbors to get satisfied.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)20:20 UTC+1 No.14531269 Report

>>14530960

Of course she can get a toy. She can also get another bf.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)20:23 UTC+1 No.14531281 Report

>>14530991

Let her pick out what she thinks she wants. After spending time with it, she'll have a better idea of what she really wants. I'd suggest that she get a Hitachi Magic Wand and skip all the light weight stuff.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)22:41 UTC+1 No.14531865 Report

>>14530900
you can get kits that let you take a mold of your penis and create a dildo from it, some of them vibrate, that might make you feel less self conscious.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)22:42 UTC+1 No.14531875 Report

>>14531007
>16
Did your parents know?
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)23:36 UTC+1 No.14532135 Report

>>14530900
Tell her if she gets a vibrator you get a fleshlight and she how she feels about that. Its only fair.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)23:53 UTC+1 No.14532191 Report

>>14530900
> I'm againast her having a toy

I stopped reading right there
WHO DA FUCK YOU THINK YOU HER; YOU AINT HER FUCKING BOSS OR MASTER
Who the fuck are these beta faggots who be like "Should I let my gf.." What a fucking scumbag

She gonna do whatever the fucj you want you insecure lil bitch boy

> Alpha man here.
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Anonymous 07/23/14(Wed)23:58 UTC+1 No.14532216 Report

We've already had this damn thread in the last week.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)00:20 UTC+1 No.14532287 Report

>>14531875
Not who you're replying to, but my mom walked in on me using hers at around that age. Was super fucking embarrassing, but she bought me one of my own the next day.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)00:22 UTC+1 No.14532295 Report

>>14532287
As a dude, I'm glad that my hands are more than enough for me. Girls have it bad in that way. Hahaha, how weird was it when she gave it to you?
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)00:24 UTC+1 No.14532300 Report

Most girls have sexual toys. Doesn't stop them from having/wanting real sex. Grow the fuck up, op.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)00:25 UTC+1 No.14532303 Report

>>14532191
>WHO DA FUCK YOU THINK YOU HER; YOU AINT HER FUCKING BOSS OR MASTER
>YOU CAN'T HAVE AN OPINION ON THINGS YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER DOES!!11!
Rage harder, faggot. Relationships are about communication and compromise.

That being said, OP it seems silly for you to not want her to get a vibrator. Not only does it seem like she has a valid reason, but it normally doesn't make actual sex less pleasurable. It's possible someone could become addicted to cumming in that particular way (think guys who deathgrip their cock and can't cum otherwise) but I highly doubt this would turn into that.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)00:26 UTC+1 No.14532313 Report

>>14532287
>mom walks in on me using her vibrator
>im a guy
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)00:29 UTC+1 No.14532318 Report

>>14532295
>Hahaha, how weird was it when she gave it to you?
Ha, could have been worse actually. We just had a kind of sex talk and then she gave it to me inside a normal looking box. She even told me how to properly clean it afterwards. My mom can actually be pretty cool.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)00:42 UTC+1 No.14532368 Report

Hahaha, omg. My boyfriend actually wanted to buy me one of those vibrator things, like in the Japanese porno movies. That big white vibrating wand that stimulates the clit and doesn't get inserted. He thinks it's hot if I masturbate at home.
You don't need to feel insecure, coz a dildo simply cannot compare to the real thing. I mean, the real thing is attached to a guy who you can watch get turned on, orgasm from your blowjob and it's not just this thing where you're the one who has to keep moving it..
In fact, I don't like masturbating by myself, but I like it when my bf feels like he's gonna come too soon so he uses the dildo on me really fast.
That's an idea too why not play with toys when you're with her too? So when she's home alone, it can't compare to you using it on her :P
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)00:52 UTC+1 No.14532413 Report

>>14532368
How are those things? I've always wondered.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)01:05 UTC+1 No.14532471 Report

>>14532287
>>14532318
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)01:06 UTC+1 No.14532473 Report

>>14532471
Not them, but usually these type of comments aren't appreciated. Nobody cares that you got a boner.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)01:09 UTC+1 No.14532480 Report

>>14532368
I bought my gf that thing. The Hitachi magic wand.
After her first use she said every girl should own one.

As for op sex is way more than some sensation in your pussy or on your dick. It's about the experience you have with that person in that moment.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)01:26 UTC+1 No.14532541 Report

>>14532473
Not that the other guy isn't, but you are such an immense faggot that it boggles my mind.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)01:29 UTC+1 No.14532552 Report

>>14532541
wouldn't an immense faggot totally care whenever someone pops a boner?
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)03:18 UTC+1 No.14532965 Report

>>14532552
Get with the times. A faggot means someone who is a complete tool. A total douche. A faggot. Whoever still thinks faggot means a gay person is a complete faggot.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)03:40 UTC+1 No.14533051 Report

Everything in the opening post tells me that OP is bad at sex.

Especially the 'it will make sex less pleasurable' part. If you don't know how to turn owning a sex toy into an advantage for you both, you are a boring, unimaginative, insecure sack of sand.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)03:42 UTC+1 No.14533064 Report

>>14533051
OP here. You're absolutely right :(
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)04:23 UTC+1 No.14533192 Report

>>14533051
Just like having a fleshlight will make sex for OP's girl more enjoyable right.
Thats not how sex works. People orgasm through 90% mental stimulation. If you find having toys fun then sure itll be better for you. If you dont then it will only hurt. Dont force your own preferences on others. Not everyone has to like a 3some. If OP doesnt want another dick in his girl then let him be.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)04:28 UTC+1 No.14533212 Report

>>14533192
That's funny. Forcing his preferences onto someone is exactly what OP is doing.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)04:41 UTC+1 No.14533264 Report

>>14533212
Thats because OP is in a relationship with this person and not some fwb shit. Relationships are all about compromising preferences. Its different and you know it.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)04:44 UTC+1 No.14533283 Report

It's a piece of plastic or rubber.
Would you prefer she screws other dudes?
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)05:27 UTC+1 No.14533455 Report

Dude better a toy then another Guy.. If your seriously upset talk to her about this.. Its only a toy not like she went and found another guy to fill the void. Shit if I met a girl who waned to use a toy I'd make sure I plowed her harder then she could ever handle and see it as a challenge.. Its honestly not a big deal, but if your not happy about this speak to her and work things out like a adult couple..
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)07:19 UTC+1 No.14533883 Report

>>14533192
I'm not sure how a fleshlight would negatively impact their sex life whatsoever. Just like a vibrator wouldn't hurt anything. I'm not quite sure I see your point.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)16:51 UTC+1 No.14535191 Report

>>14531875
No they did not, my mom knew I was sexually active at that age though.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)17:05 UTC+1 No.14535236 Report

>>14530900
I prefer my dildo (little bigger than my bf, but not much) when I am having sex with my bf, it never cums too quick an rolls away. When alone use a really large suction dildo and a little vibrator to work my clit. He doesn't know about the large one.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)17:19 UTC+1 No.14535272 Report

>>14535236
Your bf sounds like a shitty lover.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)17:31 UTC+1 No.14535312 Report

>>14530900

I kind of understand your concern, but you are still being unreasonable. It's just a vibrating stick of rubber and battery.

Bettet a dildo than another dick.
My gf has one and I have a fleshlight, wich, btw she bought me as a gift. (Funny calling it a gift) It has not made sex any less pleasurable, in reality it has spiced things up a little. I also suggest using a toy together, like one of those V-vibe or whatnots. Those things accompanied with the 'traditional' approach equals happy times.

And sex is not only a physical thing, 2/3 of it is mental. So don't overreact.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)18:05 UTC+1 No.14535403 Report

>>14535272
why would you assume just my current bf? Only one man I've had sex with was enough or perhaps could cum at will and it was an older man around 40. I needed no assistance with him
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)18:12 UTC+1 No.14535419 Report

>>14530900
I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I'm monogamous and I feel like toys are cheating, so I refuse to own them. The only thing that penetrates me is my BF, and I intend to keep it that way.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)18:16 UTC+1 No.14535441 Report

>>14535419
>I feel like toys are cheating
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)18:21 UTC+1 No.14535451 Report

>>14535191
How did you get one at 16?
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)18:22 UTC+1 No.14535457 Report

>>14535403
So your problem is you need guys to last longer?
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)18:25 UTC+1 No.14535465 Report

>>14535419

Being monogamous doesn't have anything to do with this situation. You think toys are cheating? That's outrageous. So if you masturbate at all you're cheating? If he jacks off he's cheating? If either of you look at porn, you're cheating? If either of you has a fantasy, you're cheating? That just sounds so ridiculously absurd.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)18:26 UTC+1 No.14535471 Report

get her a magic wand
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)19:23 UTC+1 No.14535691 Report

>>14535451
I looked older than I was and the guy at the sex shop didn't ID me when I walked in.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)19:28 UTC+1 No.14535702 Report

>>14535471
I found one of these under my mom's bed when I was younger. When I asked her what it was she got all embarrassed and told me it was a back massager. So I turned it on and started using it on my back and she quickly grabbed it telling me never to do that again. Until I got older, I was always so fucking confused why that freaked her out so much. It was a shitty back massage anyway.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)19:34 UTC+1 No.14535716 Report

Yeah, you're being unreasonable. Your girlfriend most likely also does not like you having tons of naked beautiful women doing all the lewd sex acts in the world within a few clicks reach, not to mention fervent jerking off can also lead to sexual dysfunction.

>to have another dick
How about you get some fucking self respect.
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Ann 07/24/14(Thu)19:39 UTC+1 No.14535733 Report

>>14530960
Insecure.
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Ann 07/24/14(Thu)19:41 UTC+1 No.14535742 Report

>>14532191
^
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Ann 07/24/14(Thu)19:45 UTC+1 No.14535754 Report

>>14530900
>I really am against her getting a toy because I've heard it can make actual sex less pleasurable.
Why the fuck do you think that?
>I also don't want to have another dick, even if it is fake
Then don't fap, ever. Even if you had sex more often she will want to play with herself. Duh.
>we don't see each other too often and she can no longer orgasm using just her hands.
Then don't be so fuckin insecure and selfish
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Ann 07/24/14(Thu)19:47 UTC+1 No.14535764 Report

>>14535419
Dafak.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)20:01 UTC+1 No.14535800 Report

>>14535764
Sorry that you have no self-control in regards to sex.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)20:02 UTC+1 No.14535802 Report

>>14535800
Yes because having a sex toy equals no self control for sex.

Your argument is so terrible that I almost just feel like it's trolling.
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Ann 07/24/14(Thu)20:02 UTC+1 No.14535804 Report

>>14535800
Do I have to? Cmon dude
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)20:20 UTC+1 No.14535848 Report

>>14535754
I disagree and agree at the same time.
You should just stop jerking off. But you cannot expect her to not get a vibrator if you aren't going to stop jerking off. I think you're both selfish for masturbating. Stop masturbating, bang each other lots whenever you see each other.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)20:29 UTC+1 No.14535895 Report

>>14535848
>I think you're both selfish for masturbating.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)20:33 UTC+1 No.14535922 Report

>>14535457
yes and they just can't. But understand I fuck back and don't just lie there. Only the older guy gave more than he got. Young guys, even the proclaimed studs, think if they can thrust or eat a little pussy I'll cum buckets. Wrong, and before you go telling me there is some mental blockage or that you know more about my pussy than I do, forget it.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)20:38 UTC+1 No.14535941 Report

this is horrible.
the fact that she asked you if she could is horrible.
whether she masturbates or not has nothing to do with you. just like whether you masturbate or not has nothing to do with her.
you are her boyfriend, nothing else. check yourself and your privileges.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)21:06 UTC+1 No.14536041 Report

Let the poor girl pleasure herself that way if she wants to you fucking retard. The girl is being open with you about this, and that tells me she is probably a pretty cool chick, so wtf is wrong with you? Besides, it's HER body, you fucking faggot.

>>14530900
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)21:23 UTC+1 No.14536097 Report

My gf bought two. She asked me if I would not like it, and I just told her to go ahead and buy whatever she wanted to.

See, pal, I'm not very attractive or have that big of a dick, but I know that I can bang her way better than a rubber thingie.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)21:25 UTC+1 No.14536106 Report

>>14535941
That b8 may just lead to candied island!
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)21:46 UTC+1 No.14536226 Report

>>14535922
Someone seems a bit defensive.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)21:51 UTC+1 No.14536251 Report

>>14535922
I have the exact opposite problem. It takes a while for me to come and a lot of the girls I have hooked up with get too sore to continue after they orgasm.

And before you go telling me there is some mental blockage or that you know more about my dick than I do, forget it.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)21:52 UTC+1 No.14536262 Report

>>14530900
Yeah I think that's a little unreasonable. How would you feel if she asked you to stop watching porn?

You guys can use the vibrator during sex, using it on her clit while you fuck her.
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Anonymous 07/24/14(Thu)22:00 UTC+1 No.14536306 Report

>>14535702
This is hilarious.
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