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Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)07:38 UTC+1 No.14652489 Report

So my fiance won't stop lying to me about her smoking and drinking. I know what you are probably going to say "let her do what she wants she is grown" but its not the drinking or smoking, it is the lying. What should i do?? Pic unrelated.
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Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)07:44 UTC+1 No.14652506 Report

Not marry someone who lies? That would be very dumb and it's sure to sabotage any practical reason you had for getting married.

Just stay in a relationship until she can figure out how to stop.
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Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)07:46 UTC+1 No.14652513 Report

You already know the answer, so all I'm going to add is that you'll just keep building resentment when she continues lying to you, so cut your losses and be done with it if it's something you can't live with.
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Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:01 UTC+1 No.14652545 Report

Most people don't like being hassled about their vices, even if they are self-aware and understand the damages those vices may be doing.

She's lying to you because she doesn't want to hear you preach about how you think this-or-that about what she does. She may care about you, but addiction and habit don't give a shit about what you have to say.

Support her (but don't enable her) or leave her.
By supporting her you stop your fucking bitching and try to make the most out of your relationship. This does not mean that you have to like or even pretend to like her bad habits. Try not to let her do these things while you are physically together and find things to do that will discourage her habits (go places she can't smoke/drink, etc.). In a worst case scenario you can offer rewards for when she avoids her bad habits.

The drinking may be more of a problem. Is she pretty much an alcoholic (or in her early 20s), or are you one of those people that looks down on everyone that ever drinks?
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