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Anonymous 05/13/14(Tue)23:29 UTC+1 No.14259844 Report

>love someone
>they don't love you back
>watching them get close with someone else

how the fuck do you deal with this. seriously this feel is causing me so much anxiety, its ruining my life right now.
i live with the two people involved, i have no escape.

never before have i been so aware of how jealous, selfish, paranoid and needy i am.
i recognize how pathetic it is. to get worked up so easily. but its just tearing me apart. this mindset encourages me to do self destructive things. it will eventually cost me friendships.

i just want to turn my brain off, i cant deal with this. what do i do?
Anonymous 05/13/14(Tue)23:31 UTC+1 No.14259851 Report

Go out an mingle.
Anonymous 05/13/14(Tue)23:33 UTC+1 No.14259861 Report


Cut all contact and/or make yourself hate them.

That's the only way I can get over them.
Anonymous 05/13/14(Tue)23:34 UTC+1 No.14259863 Report

Stop being a dumbass.
Anonymous 05/13/14(Tue)23:41 UTC+1 No.14259884 Report

hey its not pathetic
you need to get out from there, its unhealthy to be the witness of such a thing, dont make it worse by thinking low about yourself

if you can, move to another place
Anonymous 05/13/14(Tue)23:53 UTC+1 No.14259918 Report

i'm locked into these living arrangements for another year. cutting contact isnt really viable and i dont want to be living in a house with people i hate.

how do
Anonymous 05/14/14(Wed)00:02 UTC+1 No.14259953 Report

Do you want to wallow in self pity, or do you want to do something about this?

In this situation I'm going to assume that you're a girl and the object of your affection is a guy, don't worry if that's not the case, it still works the same but I need some structure to my plan for you.

To begin with you need to find out if you exhibit any dealbreakers to this person. If you're fat, or whatever, you need to hit the gym. If you do drugs and they're not down with that, then quit, you get the idea. Not many people are truly ugly, so don't worry about that.

Now pick around 3 things that they are attracted to, 1 physical, then a couple of mental things/interests. If your dude is into blonde hair you dye your hair blonde, then if he's into football you find out his favourite team, you pick up a couple of bits of merch and you make sure you know how they're doing/the names of the players and a bit of their history etc.

Essentially now you are a pretty good match for the guy, but you can't go after him just yet.

So, now you're a hot commodity, you need a boyfriend. You don't have to fuck him, you just need to be taken. He needs to be in the same league as the guy you're after, no losers, this shouldn't be hard as you're pretty hot now.

Now you're taken you're a non threat, you are essentially not in the danger radar of the other girl, you can become friendly with your boy as a purely platonic ideal.

The more friendly you get, the more you can encourage him to do stuff that pisses her off, literally nobody likes to be told what to do or who they can hang out with by ther partner so he will totally defend you whenever she bitches you out.

Get a friend to spread a rumour that you guys hooked up, he knows it isn't true so he won't think badly of you. You'll probably both get dumped by your partners though, which will leave you in an "us vs them" situaton.

Now you're all bonnie and clyde, and his perfect girl you should be able to hook up with him easily.
Anonymous 05/14/14(Wed)00:04 UTC+1 No.14259962 Report

>Murder them
>Find peace and harmony
Anonymous 05/14/14(Wed)00:05 UTC+1 No.14259967 Report

Find someone else to infatuate over.
Anonymous 05/14/14(Wed)00:05 UTC+1 No.14259969 Report

I have done this twice btw and the guy falls for it every time.
Anonymous 05/14/14(Wed)00:07 UTC+1 No.14259974 Report

plot twist: i'm a guy, he's a guy, and he's straight.
well thought out plan though.
Anonymous 05/14/14(Wed)00:14 UTC+1 No.14259998 Report

Ouch, that's rough.

I would hazard that you could still give my plan a shot though, just pay attention to how he reacts to the rumour that you guys hooked up, you never know if he's bisexual, as most guys won't admit it due to the public backlash
Anonymous 05/14/14(Wed)00:21 UTC+1 No.14260035 Report


Holy fuck women are evil.
Anonymous 05/14/14(Wed)01:00 UTC+1 No.14260178 Report

i drunkenly confessed my feelings to him a few days ago (very risky, probably going to deteriorate our friendship over time), unfortunately he confirmed his heterosexuality there and then
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