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Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)07:56 UTC+1 No.14652534 Report


now, if I'm honest with myself, I think what I have going for me is that I'm good looking, height weight proportionate (a lil muscle), confident, and chill (my spaghetti days are way behind me) up front. but that's it really. I don't have any cool interests like sports or rock climbing. im not really exceptional at anything except computers and boring shit. Im broke. lately I just smoke weed and listen to or play music. Ive never hung out with a girl alone. im just afraid ill be disappointing in person and come off as boring or weird. I'm 19 btw. am I just thinking too much into it? is 4chan at 3am the right place to ask for tinder advice?
Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:00 UTC+1 No.14652541 Report

Dude, why the fuck do you not play sports and go rock climbing? This shit is not expensive. Or do other things. Broke? Stop buying weed and maybe do some one-off gigs for $20 here and there.

Tinder = be handsome + cheesy flirt in your first message. Swipe in the yes direction for everyone. (Can you tell I got bored of that shit a while ago?)

Seriously bro you need to just use the pennies in your pocket to try shit. Walk around town and do whatever.
Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:14 UTC+1 No.14652575 Report

I never played sports when I was younger just video games and on the internet and shit. Ill shoot hoops or throw a ball or something but I probably couldn't even hang with middle schoolers. I can't believe I thought sports were dumb when I was younger..I was such an edgy piece of shit kid.

yea I've seen screenshots and stuff. honestly I just wanna get some pussy and maybe meet a girl who's cool with me being who I am. I mean I don't plan on being a slacker forever, not even for another year.
Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:19 UTC+1 No.14652588 Report

Tinder isn't cool anymore sorry, but you are going to have a hard time.

>1 out of 10 women are actually bots
>Many other are actually in relationships and are just trolling
>fat, horrible tattoos, shitty piercings, bad alternative lifestyles
>Notice how they are all interested in being outdoors?
>All the decent ones swipe over 8/10 and below because they WILL get matched with better looking dudes
Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:19 UTC+1 No.14652590 Report

I'm sure lots of people will be cool with who you are. They're called friends.

Every stage of interpersonal relationships (keeping it in the context of the relevant gender here) builds upon the last with added practical purposes. Marriage is relationship + life goals. Relationships is dating + commitment. Dating is friendship + flirtation. Right now your lifestyle offers zero momentum to climb that ladder. At best you're going to get to dating, where it fizzles because there's no value which makes a girl's commitment worth it for her to give.

So why sabotage? Make friends. They'll stick, PLUS they'll help motivate you to get out of this slacker lifestyle. Don't worry about pussy for now. Your hand has gotten you this far. Make a life. Then climb the ladder.
Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:23 UTC+1 No.14652595 Report

Kinda right and kinda bitter.

You just need some good pictures and a first line. Anything more, and most girls will find you as desperate - even if they post a 50 line summary for their own profile.

A lot of Tinder lately is Instagram, Escort or girls who are in depressing relationships and liking that cute guys swiped right. I started with it a few months ago and learned its turned into more of a relationship app than sexual (FwB/one night stands)

Shit, I had a few dates scroll through Tinder to find me lol
Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:24 UTC+1 No.14652598 Report

Most Internet dating and hookup places are free so why not? I think it helps in your advertising skills since you basically are advertising yourself. Make a throw away email and fake name and try out craigslist. One thing is though it's free don't let it consume your free time and such.

I have a question about tinder. I went on a out of state trip and tinder thinks I'm still there for over a month now. Even when it claims it's searching my location. How can I get the app from thinking I'm 1,000 miles from where I'm at?
Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:24 UTC+1 No.14652600 Report

damn really? well I still kinda wanna do it for my ego and see what reactions i get. I really need to put myself out there while its still semi-acceptable to not have much experience. I'm pretty lonely
Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:32 UTC+1 No.14652611 Report


Yeah I guess it did sound kind of bitter, but I guess because I didn't get in on the ground floor

> learned its turned into more of a relationship app than sexual (FwB/one night stands)

Somewhat true, I haven't been on a tinder date in almost a year, but my friend got a few. 90% of them were girl looking for a shoulder to cry on after their ex or current SO did something
Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:33 UTC+1 No.14652614 Report


Try logging in a back out? I know that sounds like a dick response but I had the same problem and didn't do that for like a week
Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:41 UTC+1 No.14652634 Report

It happens.

And to you/your friend, always schedule a meet/date nearby (I live in a concentrated area, so I keep things <10mins commute).

Gotta elevate quickly and precise, see if it's just a rebound sex, legit crying/BS or just a wall. I think that's my problem - I usually test the waters for a bit and start right from there/making my intentions known (that my time is precious and I'm not just going to be an ear only tonight).

It sucks but every guy needs to look for his own interests. Just because you are being there for her, doesn't mean she wants/right to fuck you. A LOT and I mean A LOT of guys fall into that trap of being an ear for two hours.
Anonymous 08/21/14(Thu)08:48 UTC+1 No.14652651 Report


>Just because you are being there for her, doesn't mean she wants/right to fuck you. A LOT and I mean A LOT of guys fall into that trap of being an ear for two hours.

True, my friend, like I said, has been on probably 5 in the past month, and 0 have been DTF. I think most people don't realize is Tinder IS NOT a hook up app, its more social if anything now.

I've stopped using it all together looking for girls to bang, I just use it to meet new people and expand my social circle
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